Why do people say these things?

Yesterday, I took my happy self on up to the mall to Mother.hood after deciding that I needed some sleep bras. As I stood there looking at the lacy contraptions, the sales lady asked me if I needed some help. Certainly, I am looking for your MOST comfortable sleep bra that you carry. Oh, are you expecting? Nope, I just like shopping in your overpriced maternity store. "Yes, I am." Oh when are you due? "August but my doctor said I'll probably have them in July cause we are having twins" Hysterical laughter and a slap on my shoulder, followed by "OMG, better you than me cause, one is bad enough, OMG I can't imagine 2!" WTF lady? Ummm.... if that wasn't the only maternity store in a 25 miles radius I would have walked out, but nope I still needed the freaking sleep bra.

I don't get why people feel this urge to laugh or say something when you say you are having twins.

1. Most people don't know what we went through to get these twins, so really I am happy to be pregnant at all, especially with more than one.

2. You having a baby and then getting pregnant and having them 11 months apart is NOT at all like having twins!! You were pregnant twice and didn't have 2 infants born at the same time.

3. It is not "double trouble" or whatever you think of cute.

4. The famous "Better you than me!" Yeah I know- Thank God I am even pregnant!

5. "OMG I don't know how you are going to do it" I will somehow, maybe with less sleep than you!

6. Did you want twins? See #1 and#4

I have not for a second thought that this was going to be easy. I realize twins are going to be some extra work. The thoughts of:

Are we going to be able to pay them both enough attention?

What about feeding them at the same time?

Can we give them both the same amount of time and attention?

Are we going to be able to love them the same?

Is one of them going to feel neglected?

I just don't get why people say these things to you. Usually followed there after with some twin horror story or worse their own labor/birth horror story, like "I ripped and had 22 stitches" or "My breasts became so engorged, it was almost as bad as labor" Or "I had a c-section and I got a horrible staph infection and almost bled out and died" Somehow these things don't make me feel better. I can't figure out why, but it doesn't make me any more relaxed or confident.

I haven't gotten "OMG twins- how exciting. You must be thrilled"!

Second Trimester here I come!!

The second trimester starts for me tomorrow! Woo Hoo! I am super excited and glad to be out of the "Danger Zone"! In honor of this momentous occasion- here is a belly pic of me at 12 weeks.




I am still able to wear my dress pants (I moved back up in my closet of my "fat clothes" before South Beach entered my life, a big "What Not to Wear" No-No I know) However, my "fat girl" jeans are not comfortable so I am wearing maternity jeans.

My other milestone is that the nausea has subsided alot! My 24 hour a day symptom has diminished alot! I have to admit I am happy about that. Other things are kicking in- like acid reflux and my inability to eat tomatoes. I also borrowed a Doppler from a friend and I was able to hear the babies' heartbeats this morning! That was a wonderful sound! we have our gender u/s scheduled for March 10th! I hope they will cooperate!

Next milestone will be to feel these little babies move!! OMG that will be the most wonderful thing I will ever feel in my life! At least until I get to see them and hold them!

Almost done with the 1st Trimester

We had another appointment today and got to see the twins. They really have grown and they were so cute in there.

Baby B (on the left) was moving and flipping around. Baby A (on the right obviously) was asleep at first until Baby B kept hitting the membrane and woke up Baby A. Then they were both flipping and moving. Baby B reached up and scratched his/her head! It was so cool that we could see their arms and legs and they were stretching. They wouldn't hold still so the pic isn't clear. I had asked the babies to be still and gave them a pep talk about saying "cheese" for the camera and being still, but they didn't listen. I hope that isn't what I have to look forward to for the next 18 years! Maybe it is cause they can't hear me yet. Hmmmm....

Some of the highlights going on right now, I am 12 wks 1d! Woo Hoo! I am almost done with the 1st trimester. Meaning that the nausea/ All day sickness is slowly diminishing, which is awesome! I am also slowly growing a belly. I am guessing this is probably the last week in my regular clothes, they are getting snug and I refuse to walk around uncomfortable. I am enjoying being pregnant and relishing every second.

Also, my husband is working hard on remodelling our main bathroom. I can't wait for it to be finished! Hopefully after the next 2 weekends it will be fully functional!!

I guess the biggest highlight of the day is that I graduated from the dildo cam to the belly u/s!! I wish they had told me before I sat there naked from the waist down with the paper blanket to cover myself for 45 minutes while we waited for the dr. At least he actually sits down and talks to us and we get a good 20 minutes with him.

So next u/s we should be able to see the sexes!! YAY! I am going to try to blog better as I have gotten some emails about what was going on, I am sorry but I wasn't blogging as I really didn't have anything too exciting going on cause I feel like I went to work, came home, slept to wake up and do it all over again. I figured no one wants to hear that... so I just didn't post. Sorry! Please forgive me!