Yesterday, I took my happy self on up to the mall to Mother.hood after deciding that I needed some sleep bras. As I stood there looking at the lacy contraptions, the sales lady asked me if I needed some help. Certainly, I am looking for your MOST comfortable sleep bra that you carry. Oh, are you expecting? Nope, I just like shopping in your overpriced maternity store. "Yes, I am." Oh when are you due? "August but my doctor said I'll probably have them in July cause we are having twins" Hysterical laughter and a slap on my shoulder, followed by "OMG, better you than me cause, one is bad enough, OMG I can't imagine 2!" WTF lady? Ummm.... if that wasn't the only maternity store in a 25 miles radius I would have walked out, but nope I still needed the freaking sleep bra.
I don't get why people feel this urge to laugh or say something when you say you are having twins.
1. Most people don't know what we went through to get these twins, so really I am happy to be pregnant at all, especially with more than one.
2. You having a baby and then getting pregnant and having them 11 months apart is NOT at all like having twins!! You were pregnant twice and didn't have 2 infants born at the same time.
3. It is not "double trouble" or whatever you think of cute.
4. The famous "Better you than me!" Yeah I know- Thank God I am even pregnant!
5. "OMG I don't know how you are going to do it" I will somehow, maybe with less sleep than you!
6. Did you want twins? See #1 and#4
I have not for a second thought that this was going to be easy. I realize twins are going to be some extra work. The thoughts of:
Are we going to be able to pay them both enough attention?
What about feeding them at the same time?
Can we give them both the same amount of time and attention?
Are we going to be able to love them the same?
Is one of them going to feel neglected?
I just don't get why people say these things to you. Usually followed there after with some twin horror story or worse their own labor/birth horror story, like "I ripped and had 22 stitches" or "My breasts became so engorged, it was almost as bad as labor" Or "I had a c-section and I got a horrible staph infection and almost bled out and died" Somehow these things don't make me feel better. I can't figure out why, but it doesn't make me any more relaxed or confident.
I haven't gotten "OMG twins- how exciting. You must be thrilled"!