Well they girls didn't! But Bobby did!! And yes, I laughed at him! He said "It was there first time on Santa's lap, we will never have the first time again!"
Aren't they the cutest little things ever??? Damn, I made cute kids!! If I do say so myself!
We also had our 4 month check up and shots at the pediatricians. So it went something like this:
Kristin- 12 lb 1 oz- 23.25 in- 10th percentile for both height and weight Lara- ll lbs- 22.5 in- 5th for height and 3rd for weight
Ok so I have little wee ones!
We discussed cereal, sleeping through the night (cause we still aren't), Kristin's constipation and reflux, breastfeeding, and Spitting up and IF this Colic is EVER going to end!
So since rice cereal can cause constipation, we are starting with Oatmeal cereal instead. We will try that on Saturday- should be interesting.
Giving Kristin yet again another medicine to try and make her poop. Come on child and poop on a regular basis. I know it has to hurt and it makes her cranky. Dr B said we should be on the home stretch of Colic and it should be ending soon. God I hope so!! She screamed last night for an hour and 40 mins and then all of a sudden she stopped slept for 10 mins and was an angel after that! Like having Dr. Jekyll and Mr Hyde.
They got some shots and we were off!
Visiting Santa was quite the adventure. I waited to dress them until we only had 3 people in front of us in line- because lo and behold as soon as we picked them up off of Santa's lap- I was once again covered in puke. Ughh!! How many times in a 24 hour time period can 1 person be spit up on?? I will keep track and let you know.
As for me and Bobby. We are in a "compromise" right now. He wants me to be more specific and tell him exactly what I want him to do. So I am going to work on not being pissed that I have to tell him exactly what to do and just tell him cause I assume that he knows that if the girls need to be changed- that he should change them and then he can go play on the computer. But we are working on that.
My New Year's resolution is to get over my anger and just tell him what to do without resentment. We'll see how that goes too.......
So yesterday, my hubby had to have some warranty things done on his car, so he came to school and got my car and went about his day- which did NOT consist of watching the girls cause he had "stuff to do".
My friend Kate and I, well we IM each other throughout the day. It is nice, I get to vent some and she does too. We don't do it all day, but we write down what's going on and support each other during the day. Sometimes it takes us awhile to write back, all depends on what is going on. So anyway...
We were discussing that my hubby would like to have another baby (yes you heard me correctly). My response was something of- "of course he would because he doesn't do shit to help me."
So when he came to pick me up I was in a meeting, I came back and he was at my desk on my computer and I saw that the IM was scrolled back to the top. I didn't say anything, but the rest of the night all I heard was "Well, since I don't do shit" or something to that effect. I told him I thought we were over that, but apparently it isn't. I mean I know it isn't because I am not over it, but I can't say anything to "make" him help me. So I just don't say anything else, why bother? There's no point.
He "thinks" he is helping me and I feel he isn't so why? It only makes us both upset and angry, and since I can't stand arguing what's the point in continuing? So I tell my friends and my blog and all how he doesn't help. I am not keeping it all inside and now I have come to learn that a lot of men just don't help. They "think" or "feel" that they are, but their spouse feels they aren't.
The biggest thing of all this is that he read MY stuff! I have NEVER gone through his stuff. Frankly, I don't give a shit about his emails or text messages or cell phone calls, and now I just don't have the energy to be "sneaky", I am just TOO TIRED. If he wanted to cheat or had someone on the side... I will kindly help him pack his shit and leave. In Beyonce's terms "To the left, to the left, everything you own in a box to the left." Followed by, "You don't know about me, I can have another you in a minute" Except I don't want another him... I'd find one that helps me!! HA take that Bobby! I mean why the fuck does he feel that insecure about our marriage that he would read my stuff??? I asked him that but I didn't really give him a chance to answer. Because I was too busy getting the girls ready for bed- by myself as usual. Then Kristin had a melt down and I held her as he rolled over and went to sleep and kindly snored for Kristin and me! Thanks asshole!
I should precipitate this by this is what happened on Thanksgiving. My whole family got together at my sister's and I had fed the girls (notice once I again I said "I") and pumped and was all nice a full so I laid down on the floor (as not to bother or take up any room on the couch to keep anyone from not having a seat to watch the game) My bil and sister were holding the girls, BIL says to Bobby let's go watch the game on my new plasma. Bobby turns to me and holds out Kristin and says "Here, you aren't doing anything." Are you fucking kidding me??? I never get 5 minutes to myself, I mean I have held a baby while trying to pee! BIL says basically, "Courtney, never gets to do nothing- we got this, we can take the girls up to the room, they don't need anything and even if they do it's 2 vs 2!" Really Bobby?? Everyone else sees that I don't get a break, why can't my husband? Why am I STILL having this conversation?
The only time I am away from the girls I am at work! Then people STILL want something from me! Someone is wanting something from me ALWAYS- whether it is the girls, the kids at school, or my husband!! Someone ALWAYS wants something!! I want time where NOONE wants something!! PLEASE!!!
Seriously, I worry about my marriage. No one prepared me for the fact that having these twins would drive such a rift between us. I mean I knew it would change my marriage but not to this extreme.
I try saying this to him but all it does is turn into a fight and I am tired of the fighting. I am not a fighter!
I feel like giving up!
And now all I have is my blog to be honest- cause he doesn't know I have one!
I am 35 years old. I am married to the most wonderful man in the world, Bobby. We have been married for 6 years and tried to conceive for 20 months (18 cycles). We are smitten with our 2 beautiful girls!
June 2006- Nah... let's wait one more year to try to have kids. Ahhh our ignorant bliss!!
April 2007- Came off bc pills- Holy crap, what are we thinking??
June 2007- Ok, school is out, now let's 'really' try
August 2007- I got a positive HPT (home pregnancy test) YAY!!
September 2007- 1st OB appt got a pic of my 'blob'
October 2007- 2nd OB appt- u/s no heartbeat- opt for a D&C (15th)
November 2007- Dr says ok to ttc again- Thanksgiving got BFP (big fat positive) on an hpt, you're going to m/c AGAIN call from the dr's office
December 2007- D&C for m/c #2 dr gives us the green light to ttc again, tells us we have "bad luck"
February 2008- dr does u/s, holy shit I have PCOS and a reason for the m/cs!! Start Metformin and dr says to lose weight on a low carb diet! South Beach started (2-24)!
March 2008- Clomid round 1 , also got the CBE fertiltiy monitor, got a "peak reading" BFN (big fat negative) lost 11 lbs first 2 weeks on South Beach
April 2008- Round 2 of Clomid- no peak reading, lost 26 lbs so far
May 2008- U/S shows BIG cyst from Clomid- no clomid for me and no AF either until it goes away- pissed and I hate my body, lost 35 lbs
June 2008- decided enough was enough- going to Jones Institute- they'll get me pregnant! no meds this cycle, just had fun and enjoyed being with my husband, started Acupuncture too, lost 38 lbs
July 2008- AF show in time for Jones consult and it was the perfect day to get bloodwork started and they said go ahead and take some more Clomid- if not pregnant it is time to do more tests on you and check Bobby, 6 follicles and 1st Ovideral shot
August 2008- BFN- HSG for me (all clear) and a SA on Bobby ("normal") more Clomid, lost 43 lbs total
September 2008- U/S revealed 3 eggs- ready for IUI- gave myself my first HCG trigger!! BFN!! 46 lbs lost total!!! HSG revealed asymmetrical uterus/fibroids, Laparoscopy and Hysteroscopy schduled for Oct, back on bc pills
October 2008- Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy done- small fibroid/ 3 spots of Endometriosis removed- 10/24 Follistim/Ganirelix study started 75 units of Follistim, 48 lbs lost total!
November 2008- u/s 3 mature follies, BFN, 50 lbs total